Monday 26 July
Loneliness has less to do with being alone and
much more to do with the experience of feeling unseen.
Monday 19 July
I thought growing older would take longer.
Monday 12 July
Age is a number we count until we’re old enough to know it doesn’t count.
Monday 5 July
The only way to keep your health is to eat what you don’t want,
drink what you don’t like and do what you’d rather not.
Monday 28 June
There is nothing in the world so irresistibly contagious as laughter and good humour.
Monday 21 June
Half the world is composed of people who have something to say and can’t, and
the other half who have nothing to say and keep on saying it.
Monday 14 June
You can’t wait until life isn’t hard anymore before you decide to be happy.
Monday 7 June
As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands –
one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.
Monday 31 May
Winter is the time for comfort, for good food and warmth,
for the touch of a friendly hand and for a talk beside the fire: it is the time for home.
Monday 24 May
Speak only if it improves upon the silence.
Monday 17 May
You are never too old to set another goal or to dream another dream.
Monday 10 May
Mending My Mind
Worrying makes holes in my head
and the useful bits keep falling out
My mind gets holes in it
and the wind blows thoughts into disarray
The more I anxiously scramble
to keep my thought in order
The more my brain leaks
the goodness leached and lost
I want to mend my mind
and plug up the holes
with faith and trust and belief
conviction, passion and certainty
Then my mind can find solutions
my fretting thoughts would never have found
And I might even think of something
I hadn’t thought of before
Monday 3 May
Experience is what you get when you don’t get what you want.
Randy Pausch – The Last Lecture
Monday 26 April
In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity.
Monday 19 April
Two roads diverged in a wood and I – I took the one less travelled by, and that has made all the difference.
Monday 12 April
Monday 5 April
Keep your face towards the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you.
Monday 29 March
Friends are those rare people who ask how we are and then wait to hear the answer.
Monday 22 March
In the other gardens
And all up in the vale,
From the autumn bonfires
See the smoke trail!
Pleasant summer over,
And all the summer flowers,
The red fire blazes,
The grey smoke towers.
Sing a song of seasons!
Something bright in all!
Flowers in the summer
Fires in the fall!
Robert Louis Stevenson
Monday 15 March
When you change the way you look at things,
the things you look at change.
Dr Wayne Dyer
Monday 8 March
“‘When you wake up in the morning, Pooh,’ said Piglet at last, ‘What’s the first thing you say to yourself?’
‘What’s for breakfast?’ said Pooh. ‘What do you say, Piglet?’
‘I say, I wonder what’s going to happen exciting today?’ said Piglet.
Pooh nodded thoughtfully. ‘It’s the same thing,’ he said.”
Winnie the Pooh – A.A Milne
Monday 1 March
The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking.
It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.
Monday 22 February
May you have warm words on a cold evening,
a full moon on a dark night,
and a smooth road all the way to your door.
Monday 15 February
To live content with small means;
to seek elegance rather than luxury,
and refinement rather than fashion,
to be worthy, not respectable,
and wealthy, not rich;
to study hard, think quietly,
talk gently, act frankly,
to listen to stars and birds,
to babes and sages,
with open heart,
to bear all cheerfully,
to all bravely await occasions,
In a word, to let the spiritual unbidden
and unconscious grow up through the common.
This is to be my symphony.
William Henry Channing
Monday 8 February
Every step makes a footprint.
Monday 1 February
Smiling is infectious,
you catch it like the flu.
When someone smiled at me today,
I started smiling too.
I passed around a corner
and someone saw my grin.
When he smiled I realised
I’d passed it on to him.
I thought about that smile,
then I realised its worth.
A single smile, just like mine
could travel round the earth.
So if you feel a smile begin,
don’t leave it undetected.
Let’s start an epidemic quick,
and get the world infected.
Monday 25 January
Love one another and you will be happy.
It’s as simple and as difficult as that.
Monday 18 January
I think the more unexpected something is,
the more there is to learn from it.
Michael J Fox
Monday 11 January
Hold fast to dreams
For if dreams die
Life is a broken-winged bird
That cannot fly.
Hold fast to dreams
For when dreams go
Life is a barren field
Frozen with snow.
Monday 4 January
For last year’s words belong to last year’s language and next year’s words await another voice.
Monday 28 December
Although no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.
Monday 21 December
What is Christmas? It is tenderness for the past, courage for the present, hope for the future.
Agnes M. Pahro
Monday 14 December
Do what you can with what you have where you are.
Monday 7 December
Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.
Monday 30 November
Always be a first-rate version of yourself instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.
Monday 23 November
All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players: They have their exits and their entrances; And one man in his time plays many parts.
Monday 16 November
Gardening simply does not allow one to be mentally old, because too many hopes and dreams are yet to be realised.
Monday 9 November
Conversation about the weather is the last refuge of the unimaginative.
Monday 2 November
I know quite certainly that I myself have no special talent; curiosity, obsession and dogged endurance, combined with self-criticism have brought me to my ideas.
Monday 26 October
Almost any garden, if you see it at just the right moment, can be confused with paradise.
Monday 19 October
There is a fountain of youth: it is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life and the lives of people you love. When you learn to tap this source, you will truly have defeated age.
Monday 12 October
I desire so to conduct the affairs of this administration
that if at the end, when I come to lay down the reins of power,
I have lost every other friend on earth, I shall at least have
one friend left, and that friend shall be down inside of me.
Monday 5 October
There is so much good in the worst of us, and so much bad in the best of us, that it behooves us all not to talk about the rest of us.
Robert Louis Stevenson
Monday 28 September
Don’t spend it
Don’t save it
You cannot waste it
Only fail to appreciate it
No amount of courting will win her over
Each day’s offering the same
No matter who you are
No matter what you do
She gives of herself to everyone
In equal measure
Monday 21 September
The wiser mind mourns less for what age takes away than what it leaves behind.
Monday 14 September
I alone cannot change the world, but I can cast a stone across the waters to create many ripples.
Monday 7 September
And Spring arose on the garden fair,
Like the Spirit of Love felt everywhere;
And each flower and herb on Earth’s dark breast
rose from the dreams of its wintry rest.
Percy Bysshe Shelley
Monday 31 August
All of us might wish at times that we lived in a more tranquil world, but we don’t.
And if our times are difficult and perplexing, so are they challenging and filled with opportunity.
Monday 24 August
Tell me and I will forget.
Show me and I may remember.
Involve me and I learn.
Xun Kuang a Chinese Confucian Philosopher
Monday 17 August
Nothing in life is to be feared; it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less.
Monday 10 August
Don’t count the days, make the days count.
Monday, 3 August
Last weekend, rather than touring overseas like we had planned, we were having lunch in the garden of a local café, in the warmth of the winter sun and with the buzz of conversation around us. Instead of feeling frustrated that we were not in far off exotic places, I felt an overwhelming sense of gratitude. This is a typical Sunday scene which is usually enjoyed by millions of people around the world, that is, until Covid-19 struck! How lucky we are to live on the beautiful Kapiti Coast, be able to go about day to day life without restrictions and enjoy weekend pleasures that are not possible in other countries. It highlighted that it has taken a crisis for me to fully appreciate how important the simple things in life really are.
Jane Yoong QSM
Monday, 20 July
Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid only of standing still.
Monday, 20 July
Close Friends Are Truly Life’s Treasures
Sometimes they know us better than we know ourselves.
With gentle honesty, they are there to guide and support us,
to share our laughter and our tears.
Their presence reminds us that we are never really alone.
Vincent Van Gogh
Monday, 13 July
Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep
Monday, 6 July
If we noticed little pleasures,
as we notice little pains,
If we quite forgot our losses
and remembered all our gains,
If we’d look for people’s virtues
and their faults refused to see,
What a happy friendly place
this world of ours would be.
This poem was written for a soldier from a comrade in September 1916
when they were stationed in Rouen, France in World War 1
Monday, 29 June
If I cannot do great things
I can do small things in a great way.
Martin Luther King Jr
Monday, 22 June
National Volunteer Week
Volunteers plant seeds of love
That help countless hearts to grow.
Monday, 15 June
“All persons share common needs for love, emotional support, respect and recognition from one another, for the exchange of knowledge, experience and insights, enablement and caring. The extent of need will vary from individual to individual, age group to age group and culture to culture.
Older people are the only group that have lived through many of the experiences that younger generations have yet to encounter and can serve as valuable role models; young people bring a special energy and enthusiasm to life from which older people can benefit.”
From the Charter for a Society for All Ages for the International Year of Older Persons 1999
Monday, 8 June
“Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for a while and
leave footprints on our heart and we are never, ever the same.”
Monday, 1 June
You must give time to your fellow men – even if it’s a little thing, do something for others- something for which you get no pay but the privilege of doing it.
Monday, 25 May
If I Had My Life to Live Over
I’d dare to make more mistakes next time. I’d relax, I would limber up. I would be sillier than I have been this trip. I would take fewer things seriously. I would take more chances. I would climb more mountains and swim more rivers. I would eat more ice cream and less beans. I would perhaps have more actual troubles, but I’d have fewer imaginary ones.
You see, I’m one of those people who live sensibly and sanely hour after hour, day after day. Oh, I’ve had my moments, and if I had it to do over again, I’d have more of them. In fact, I’d try to have nothing else. Just moments, one after another, instead of living so many years ahead of each day. I’ve been one of those persons who never goes anywhere without a thermometer, a hot water bottle, a raincoat and a parachute. If I had to do it again, I would travel lighter than I have.
If I had my life to live over, I would start barefoot earlier in the spring and stay that way later in the fall. I would go to more dances. I would ride more merry-go-rounds. I would pick more daisies.
Monday, 18 May
The secret of genius is to carry the spirit of the child into old age,
which means never losing your enthusiasm.
Monday, 11 May
The hills ahead look hard, steep and high
And often we behold them with a sigh;
But as we near them level grows the road.
We find on every slope with every load
The climb is not so steep, the top so far,
The hills ahead look harder than they are.
And so it is with troubles though they seem so great
That men complain and fear and hesitate;
Less difficult the journey than we dreamed
It never proves as hard as once it seemed,
There never comes a task, a hill, a day
But as we near it – easier the way.
Monday, 4 May
The quiet I took for granted
One thing I realised that I enjoyed during level 4 was the peace and quietness around the streets. My mum and I would walk down to the beach and would be one of the only ones on it!
It almost felt sometimes as if we owned the world! Now that it is level 3, there are lot’s more people out. Which is nice in some ways, but the world feels busy again. There’s many cars on the road and the beach is more packed then it was before Covid! I’m glad more people get to enjoy it, but I also realise how much I enjoyed it when the world felt quiet. I think it will make me appreciate the quiet and slow times in life more going forward.
Kapiti Coast Youth Council
Tuesday, 28 April
It is a beautiful warm, calm autumn day as we move into Covid-19 Alert Level 3. Today, New Zealand is beginning to move again, still restricted but cautiously starting to find ways to work and live while still protecting ourselves from the unseen Covid-19.
Reflecting back over the past five weeks reveals a picture of how amazing New Zealanders are. We literally stopped the world we were living in and adapted overnight to a totally new way of life. This commitment by all of us has managed to keep the virus under control. To quote our Prime Minister, Jacinda Ardern, this was possible because we were a ‘team of five million’ each doing our bit big or small.
Our challenge in the months ahead is to find ways to harness the amazing coming together and outreach that has occurred in all areas of our life. We need to assess and plan how we work and connect in the future, build on the initiatives that have developed in the past five weeks, acknowledge and utilise the wealth of human capital which has proved so resilient and creative.
You and I, each in our own way and together, can contribute to make New Zealand the best it can be. Let’s do it!
Jane Yoong QSM
Monday, 20 April
As we get ready to move to Alert Level 3, let’s remember that:
Problems call forth our courage and our wisdom;
Indeed they create our courage and our wisdom.
It is only because of problems that we grow mentally
and spiritually. It is through the pain of
confronting and resolving problems
that we learn.
M Scott Peck, Psychiatrist and Writer
Monday, 13 April
Martin Sloman QSM, MNZAC, Registered with NZAC
What has come up for me in lockdown is two very important mental health survival techniques. One is the concept of structure. When the days blend into one another one can sometimes feel a little lost and disorientated. The antidote to this is structure. This may include getting up at a certain time, having meals at the right time, exercising , reading, exercising the mind, getting outside and soaking up some vitamin D. Spending time just watching nature from our own gardens can be enormously therapeutic.
The other one is connection. In these days of limited physical contact then we need to get creative about connecting to those within our bubbles and especially with those outside of them. This is where technology ( for all it’s down sides ) can really help. Learn how to use Skype or Zoom or Messenger to connect to those who matter. Share news, pictures and funny stories to brighten up each other’s bubbles. Make a phone call. Go for a walk and have a chat with a stranger from 2 metres away! If you can’t get out then get clever and learn a new way of connection using one of the methods above,
We are social being us humans and we need connection to thrive. Good luck!
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Monday 6 April 2020
It’s amazing how quickly life can change and how we find ways of adapting when an emergency occurs. Yet, in day to day life, we often resist change as it means learning something new or facing the unknown.
Everyone in New Zealand and millions around the world are currently facing extreme changes in every aspect of life. The impact of COVID-19 is devastating and the consequences for many are dire. Yet, the human spirit has come to the fore in many ways as we see and hear each day in the media and from conversations with family, friends and colleagues.
While we are in this unusual time, let’s challenge ourselves to do something we have put off doing or learn a new skill that we can take forward when the changed world begins to take shape.
Jane Yoong QSM